girlswholikegirls: My sister sent me a short response to a prompt she was given to write about…

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My sister sent me a short response to a prompt she was given to write about privilege and it’s beautiful and important so I wanted to share it with you all: 

“It wasn’t until my older sister admitted to me that she had always felt a smudge of jealousy of my role in our family that I realized I was privileged…privileged compared to my very own sister. And by “role in my family” I mean that my sister perceived me to be the perfect traditional daughter who would someday be married to a man and have biological children and make my parents happy grandparents. 

You see, my older sister is gay, or “lesbian”, to use proper terminology. And while my parent’s completely accept her for who she is and love her and I just the same, I understand that this ‘traditional’ path will always be much easier than hers. That isn’t her fault and it isn’t mine – it’s just the privilege I was born into. In today’s society being gay or lesbian is becoming less of a controversial issue, but people who identify with these sexual orientations still face everyday challenges in regards to embracing the person they love – something I never had to face in my life.

Because I am straight, I have the privilege of walking down the street, holding my lover’s hand without receiving long stares or multiple double-takes. I have the privilege of comfortably telling people about my boyfriend when they ask me if I am dating anyone, instead of having to “come out” over and over again. I have the privilege of being friends with multiple girls, and those girls never assuming me being nice or being a good friend is me trying to come onto them. I have the privilege of posting a picture of myself kissing my significant other without being over-sexualized by men. I have the privilege of never having to fight to have the right to marry the person I love. I have so many privileges associated with being straight, that it’s easy to overlook how much courage it takes to embrace identifying as anything different. But, because I have recognized my privilege, it has only made me admire my sister even more for her strength. For her ability to overcome those everyday challenges and full-heatedly be proud of the person – of the lesbian – that she is. She has truly inspired me to embrace and love everything that I am – and everything that I am not.” 

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